My friend Alex and I talk about this often – about being introverts…and how uncomfortable it can be when those around us often try to “fix” us because we don’t mind keeping to ourselves or because we would rather be sitting or working alone in some/most cases. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been called a “loner” or “antisocial” while growing up for just wanting to keep to myself during particular moments in my life. It bothered me more so growing up as a child when teachers would constantly complain to my parents about my “odd” distant behavior, as if I had had a deviant condition of some sort. Yes, we tend to remain quiet…but that doesn’t make our existence any less significant than our extrovert counterparts.
This society encourages us to work in groups, to be outgoing, and sociable. Which is cool, you know. I love the feeling of really connecting to the individuals around me. I find it so empowering, like a breath of fresh air, to be able to engage in conversations that give insight to who those around us really are. I find it is so easy for all of us to fall trap and to forget that our teachers and professors are more than the subjects they teach, that our boss has a life outside of work (well, maybe not all bosses…), and that our peers are not 2-D dimensional nor simply defined by meaningless stereotypes. I find these moments in my life much more significant than when I am forced to engage in small talk about the weather or having to answer questions like, “How are you doing?” only for me to answer with the expected “Fine”.
Anyway, I’m rambling. Writer and TED speaker, Susan Cain speaks more so in depth about well…people like me (and my friend Alex) and The Power of Introverts.
(You can also read the TIME Magazine article titled,The Upside Of Being An Introvert (And Why Extroverts Are Overrated) by Bryan Walsh here.)